I know I have mentioned it on here before. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. That means I am, as some people label us, Mormon.
There has been a lot going on for me and my church. Yesterday I attended the funeral of a young single mother. Just 30 years old and was tragically taken from her 4 children. It has put me in a very introspective mood. I have had a difficult time finding real happiness since I heard the news. Unfortunately I did not take the time to get to know this wonderful lady when I had the chance but in the past week I have learned a lot about her. I know that given some time we could have been friends.
My ward (congregation) is also holding an open house tomorrow for all the locals who are interested in learning more about our faith without the pressure they may feel in another environment.
I am not sure how all of this ties into the main reason I am writing today. But it is about this book
Darlene was kind enough to give me an electronic copy to read and ultimately review. I have had her book for a long time and I am still not finished with it. Time has not been on my side. I admit I was a little hesitant when I started and read that she feels women need to submit to their husbands.
Although we are both Christian I don't agree with certain things she has said about religion. But they have been minimal.
Today, while on the treadmill at the gym, I read a chapter that I needed to read today.
I am not sure if it is because of the funeral I attended yesterday or that, I believe, the funeral has brought me back over 12 years to my car accident when I lost my friend and attended her funeral.
Our Stake (big community of church members) President mentioned that we were at the funeral not out of grief or pain but out of love. Love of the person that had passed. I truly believe that. He also challenged us to take what we have learned and use it to help others.
After my husband got home from work yesterday he was bombarded by myself and our 3 sons. He had a stressful day and us running up to him did not give him the time he needed to destress from the day. It ended up being a difficult evening for me although he got over it very quickly.
I find myself upset a lot about things my husband has done or not done lately. It isn't something he can fix. It is something I need to fix. I know that now, thanks to this book. Darlene has a way of putting everything into perspective. How to make something make sense when nothing seems to make sense.
I have always been a fan of the 1950s, I would have loved to live during that time frame. I don't consider myself to be a feminist but there are things that I do agree with as well. That being said being a wife and mother in the 50s, knowing what I know, would be difficult for me.
Reading the words Darlene has put to print has helped me with these difficulties. I am not saying that by reading her book I will be a perfect wife and mother tomorrow. I do know that if I work on myself first everything else will fall into place. My children will have a better mother and in turn will be better pillars in the community as they grow, my husband will have my respect and support and therefore he will have the strength, courage, love and anything else he would need to be able to complete the tasks that are asked of him in all aspects of his life.
All in all this is a great book, not a self-help book, but a great way to look inside and see what may need to be fixed within yourself and so much more.
Thank you Darlene for allowing me this opportunity. I look forward to reading more.